How to Talk to Your Family About Going to Therapy

Talking to your family about therapy can feel overwhelming, especially if mental health isn’t something openly discussed in your household. Whether you're worried about being judged, misunderstood, or dismissed, you're not alone. Many people in Ontario, especially in diverse communities like Etobicoke, face similar struggles.

But here’s the truth: choosing to go to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. And opening up about it can lead to deeper understanding, connection, and support from those you love.

Why It’s Hard, And that’s Okay

Let’s be real: therapy still carries stigma in many families. Maybe your parents didn’t grow up with mental health resources. Maybe they believe that “talking to strangers about your problems” means something is “wrong.” These reactions often come from a place of misunderstanding, not malice.

The good news? You have the power to start shifting that mindset.

What to Say (and How to Say It)

You don’t need a perfect script, but here are a few ways to start the conversation:

• Start simple: “I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately, and I’ve decided to talk to a therapist to take care of my mental health.”

• Explain the “why”: “Therapy helps me understand myself better, and I want to feel more grounded and supported.”

• Address their worries: If your family asks, “Are you okay?” or “What’s wrong with you?” you can gently say, “I’m okay, I just want to feel better, and therapy is part of that.”

  
  

Remember, you don’t have to justify your decision. Therapy is healthcare. You wouldn’t apologize for going to the doctor or dentist, mental health deserves the same care.

Normalize It, Especially in Multicultural Families

In many families, especially those rooted in strong cultural traditions, therapy might still feel like a taboo topic. Mental health may not have been openly discussed growing up, or it might carry a stigma that suggests something is “wrong” if you need help. But therapy isn't about weakness, it's about self-awareness, healing, and personal growth.

If you're trying to normalize therapy in your family, start by framing it in familiar ways. You might say:

·       “It’s like going to the gym, but for your mind.”

·       “Talking to a therapist helps me understand my emotions and make better decisions.”

·       “It’s a tool I’m using to take care of myself and grow into the best version of me.”

By using everyday language and staying grounded, you help remove the mystery or fear around therapy. You’re not just helping yourself; you might even inspire others in your family to be more open about their own mental health journey.

Give Them Time

If your family doesn’t get it right away, that’s okay. Give them space to ask questions and process. Sometimes, your calm confidence will speak louder than any explanation.

And remember: you don’t need their approval to take care of your mental health.

You’re Not Alone

At The Wise Self, we support clients who are taking their first brave steps into therapy. Whether you’re exploring your identity, managing anxiety, or healing from past experiences, we’re here for you.

Therapy is for everyone. And you deserve to feel supported, understood, and seen.

Looking to start therapy but unsure where to begin?

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