A couple stands in the kitchen, mid-argument, about whose turn it was to empty the dishwasher. Neither one can quite remember how it started. Both are surprised at how much it hurts. Within minutes, the conversation has left the dishes behind entirely, and turned into something closer to years of feeling unseen. This is one of the most common reasons people look into couples therapy, not one enormous betrayal, but the same small fight, wearing a different outfit every time. The Fight Was...