"I shouldn't feel this angry." I hear this phrase in my practice almost daily. People apologize for their anger, minimize it, or feel ashamed of it. We've been taught that anger is a "bad" emotion something to control, suppress, or eliminate entirely. But here's what I've learned working with clients over the years: anger isn't the problem. It's a messenger. And when we learn to listen to what it's really telling us, everything changes.